Q. As a trusted resource that many look to for tips on entertaining, will you please share your thoughts on the philosophy you encourage hostesses to consider when planning any type of celebration.
Over the past few years and of course during the pandemic, I think we all have changed our attitude towards entertaining at home. My mother always told me to do four great dinner parties a year, just for the “ART of IT.” It makes you put your home in order and is important to get silver polished and crystal sparkling. As much as I do love dallying over fabulous flowers and pressing perfect linens, I also find it exhausting.
My new philosophy is entertainment for the “HEART of IT” not the “ART of IT.” I want to enjoy spontaneously inviting guests and dining in the kitchen or on the patio. I want to have time for meaningful conversations with guests I love. I don’t feel the need to prove I can bake!
I love using my beautiful dishes but maybe just clipping fresh citrus for a centerpiece (my fav is when the grapefruit are still small and green but the centers are pink. I cut them open and leave them on the stems).
There is no guilt when I buy dessert from a local baker or even pizza, especially when there are “littles” attending. I find young people love to party with their children so all things must be relaxed. I still cringe when my kids bring paper towels to the table as a napkin but other than that, melamine and acrylic are in my mix!
I feel my party has been a success when I know what was in the hearts of my guests.